Jumatano, 28 Desemba 2016
In the mind of Elon Musk there's no space for Kim Kardashian's #behind.
In the mind of Elon Musk there's surely space for TESLA and this awesome space project for sending a rocket to MARS.
But in your mind there's enough space for not only Kim Kardashian's behind and her favourite diet and places for vacation but also in your mind there's enough space for her birthday and her friends' names, her hobbies, her pet, her husband's life and first and recent album or songs and their children's names and birthdays among many other things.
In BILL GATES' mind there's no space for who won the lottery and how, who stole whose wife or husband and when, who wore the best dress on Christmas day, who posted photos on instagram from abroad and when will they be back, which artist outperformed the other in the last concert. No! That's in your mind.
In Bill Gates mind there's a #vigorous search for the next 50 books to read in 2017. In his mind there's space for how to eradicate malaria in the world. In his mind there's space for which communities to help get clean and affordable water and electricity.
But in your mind there's space for "when will the government give you a job"!
That's YOUR mind. I love how Facebook kinda "mocks" you when it says: What's in your mind? Hahaha.. And you're secretly like: "Well, Kim Kardashian's........."
In your mind there's actually more than enough space for more crap than there's space for meaningful things.
In your mind there's actually space for FAKE NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS!
Can you imagine that??
And you have the audacity to think that you'll still be successful with that same MINDSET.
And you wonder why you are walking around lifeless. You wonder why you struggle to smile. You wonder why you still need an alarm clock to wake you up. You wonder why everything is headed south despite all the effort you put in.
You wonder why you are so waiting for JANUARY 1ST instead of looking forward to the next 5 or 30 minutes. You don't know it's your mind that's holding you back.
And God's looking for whose mind is being put to service for humanity so he can bless and increase that person.
So.. Who should God increase? One who wants a new phone to take more selfish next year, or one who's reading more books to learn how to eradicate a killer disease?
Which one of the two would you bless?
Now listen to me. Here's the problem.
Problem is you don't see yourself as an opening for God to USE to serve His people. You're not seeing yourself as an opening for the Universe to use to make people's lives better before your time's up. It's all about YOU. That's why your mind has enough space for Kim Kardashian.... and Rihanna and the list of her ex-boyfriends.... and Beyonce.... and Gaga... and every other person that has an "entertaining effect" on your mind. You don't see yourself as a SOLUTION to the woes of people around the world. You think small because that space for solving problems of the world has been replaced by Kim Kardashian's big behind. And you're happy. And content. And God's wondering saying: I PLANTED GOOD SEED IN THIS PERSON'S MIND, WHO PLANTED WEEDS IN HIS MIND!?
So my friend, reconsider your life.
Rethink your priorities.
God's WAITING to increase you. But not with that mindset.
When you come to the end of your life be sure to look back and see a meaningful #legacy. A life of service to humanity.
Take care of your mind! We all need a clean you, a positive you, an ambitious you! Life will reward you greatly for cleaning up your mind!
I'm doing my part, do yours.
Andrea G. Muhozya
Dar es Salaam, Tanzania,
Jumapili, 18 Desemba 2016
When I was an employee I had a boss who was both schooled and educated. That's rarity you know. Some people are so blinded by the happiness of being just literate that they forget they are still literati!
So back to my boss back then. He had noticed that I had thus weakness of trying to do things that weren't on my JOB DESCRIPTION. So he used to tell me, Andrea, when you come at work every morning have one thing in mind: DO YOUR JOB, THEN GO HOME AND SLEEP! He told me that he had picked that principle from his American colleagues while he was there for his studies. And so I too thought I should share a message around this invaluable principle of life today.
To be able to "DO YOUR JOB" though, you must first know what your job is. That's simple logic, right?
So, my friend, WHAT'S YOUR JOB here on earth?
I have studied several people who achieved success in different areas of life and I've come to realize that they knew/know EXACTLY why they were/are here. See, it's pointless for you to spend most of your life learning how to bark like a dog while you were created a bird. You cant bark my sister. You'll never bark my brother. You simply don't have it wired in you. You will eventually lose interest in it and you won't even know how to sing like other birds.
So why waste your time?
Most people who are working to succeed in life forget that they will never become someone else, no matter what they do or how much they pray or where they go!
It's only God who knows the number of presidents that this country will ever have till Kingdom Come. Are sure you'll be in that number? Coz you are not entitled to anything but what God allows that you should have. Some were created to bear, or to father or mother someone who will become president. Some were created to teach someone who will become president. Some were created to advise someone who will become president. It's only God who knows who will become who and why. Your number one task as a HUMAN being is to find out first why you are here! Why you were created in the first place. Were you created to be an entertainer or an educator? A politician or a nun or monk? A scientist or an athlete? Don't try to become someone else.
Were you created to be THE RICHEST PERSON in the world or in Africa? Coz there will be only ONE richest person at any point in time. So are you one of those?
Jim Rohn did not attempt to become Warren Buffet. Are you hearing me?
Zig Ziglar didn't attempt to become Bill Cosby
Nelson Mandela did not attempt to become a boxing champion. Mohammad Ali did.
James Allen did not attempt to become Shakespeare
Tony Robbins didn't attempt to become Anorld Schwarzenegger
Michael Jordan didn't attempt to become Ben Carson
Ben Carson attempted to be President of The United States, but God had Donald Trump in mind. See? Of course time will tell if Carson will ever become president or not.
I'm not trying to shut you down but only put you into perspective.
You must know the area of your success. What did God wire you with? Writing skills? Speaking skills? A beautiful voice? Muscular feet? Super good brain power? What is it that your heart knows you can do better - WITHOUT PAY.
Mother Theresa did not try to become the best gymnast in the world.
I have heard so many dreams from so many people and friends. I came across a lady three years ago who told me she was going to start a big talk show like OPRAH. I asked her: Do you know Oprah's story? She said NO. I told her: Then you don't know what you're talking about.
I was with a colleague of mine yesterday and she told me she wants to become an INTERNATIONAL MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER. I simply asked her one question. How do you feel about it, will someone die if you don't become that? She was aback by my question. She had to think about it a lot before saying, faintly, "YES". See, whatever God created you to do you will always feel like someone might die if you don't become what you want to become. You'll feel compelled to work hard to become that person. You won't try copying anyone. You'll be ready to sacrifice everything to get it. Most ladies I meet want to become Oprah. And they just want the glory, they don't even know her real struggles. Her story. You can't be Oprah because your story isn't her story.
See, you must know that not every lady will become Oprah. Genevieve Nnaji will never become Angelina Jolie. Michael Jackson never attempted to be Lionel Richie, let alone attempting to become a Senator or a Navy Seal. Do YOUR job.
You have to know that when you attempt to become what you were not created to be the whole world will conspire to oppose you and remind you you are becoming an intruder. But when you flow in your area not even the entire universe can stop you from getting to the top of that field if you're really determined.
If you're a writer then DO YOUR JOB. Someone needs to read your book so they can become rich. Listen, for more than 30 years Bill Gates has been reading 1 book a week, that's 50 books a year, that's 1500 books in 30 years. But remember those aren't his books. These are books written by other people. These writers did their job and went home and slept (like my boss used to tell me). What they didn't know that they were helping feeding a single human being's mind with so much valuable information enough to elevate him to the top of the world financially.
If these 1500+ or so writers had individually attempted to become the richest person in the world they would have wasted a lot of time and they would have failed. Someone wrote a book titled THINK AND GROW RICH. He did his JOB. And went home to sleep.
So what's your job? Usijaribu kuwa DEWJI au BAKHRESSA tu! You'll be disappointed badly. You must first find out if that's what you are here for? And once you understand this principle you can quit your job or look for a job immediately! You will stop living to please ANYBODY.
The problem I see with most people is that they want to identify themselves with successful people. They want to sing like a certain successful pop star! They want to talk like a certain motivational speaker. They want to dress or make their hair like someone else. They are busy trying to die copies and not trying to live as originals. That's TRAGIC. And an insult to God. You must do your best be the best version of YOURSELF.
So why are you here?
What's your JOB? Do your job and leave well alone.
I took law and realized I wasn't here to become the best lawyer. Law had it's purpose in my life. I went to work for a commercial bank and realized it really wasn't for me. I realized there were things I could do for FREE. Such as doing bness, speaking, writing, etc. I could do them without pay and I would still be not only satisfied but actually FULFILLED. You must search within yourself. Or you'll spend your life trying to be Donald Trump - someone who started with a small loan of a million dollars from his father. Or you'll spend your life trying to be president not knowing you were supposed to start a school where future presidents would get their education.
You started flying, don't finish your life crashing! Bill Gates doesn't ridicule the messages of the writers whose books he reads. He knows they've done their job and gone to sleep. But I know some people on this earth if you gave them the same book that Bill Gates is reading this week and taking notes from they'll probably find faulty with everything the writer says. You know why? Because the message is NOT for them. They're not meant to be the richest person in the world.
Most people will one to the end of their lives and feel so sorry for having wasted a lot of their energy, and time trying to look great, or trying to be someone else. I loved the response of SIMONE BILES, the American gymnast and vault and floor gold medalist who did wonders in the Rio Olympics this year. When congratulated and asked if she felt good to be "the next Michael Phelps" she said "I'M NOT THE NEXT MICHAEL PHELPS, I AM THE FIRST SIMONE BILES"!!!
Wow! You've got to love that love for originality!
In other words she was saying Michael Phelps did his job. I'm doing mine.
That's what I'm talking about!
You've got to identify your SPACE and stay therein. Then do something in that arena and leave the scene as a winner!
Do you wonder why Aliko Dangote isn't trying to become Nigeria's president but a number of his country men and women are working hard to get the job not knowing only one person will get it? That happens in every nation. I'm sure it's not in Bill Gates'mind to be #POTUS.
Most people aren't doing their job. Don't be one of them. Determine from today on that YOU'LL DO YOUR JOB AND GO HOME AND SLEEP.
My boss said so.
Do your job. Don't try to please anyone. God will only ask you how you did what he brought you here to do. MAKE SURE YOU HAVE ANSWERS AND YOU CAN SHOW FRUITS OF YOUR LABOUR.
Heaven is for people who did their assignments.
Andrea G. Muhozya
Dar es Salaam, Tanzania
Alhamisi, 8 Desemba 2016
THE THREE KINDS OF PEOPLE YOU WILL ASSOCIATE WITH AND THE RESULTS THEREOF .. AINA TATU ZA WATU UTAKAOHUSIANA NAO NA MATOKEO UNAYOPASWA KUTARAJIA
Wakati niko High School mwalimu wangu wa somo la Historia alipenda kusema kuwa dalili mojawapo ya kutoelekea mafanikio yako ni kuwa na mahusiano ya kila siku (day-to-day) na watu kwa kuwa mambo unayoongea wanayaona ni point kweli kweli. Au kwa kuwa unawazidi pesa au level ya maisha.. Au kuwa na ukaribu na watu sababu tu mnafanya kazi pamoja au mnafanya vitu vya kufanana bila kujali kama kuna value yoyote wanaongeza katika maisha yako. Au kuwa na ukaribu na watu kwa kuwa tu wote mmetokea sehemu moja - bila ya kujali wanakoelekea na wewe unakoelekea. Katika hili alipenda sana kutoa mfano wa wakati yeye akiwa Chuo Kikuu jinsi alivyokataa kuwa katika "UMOJA" wa watu wa kabila lake, kwa sababu alikuwa akisema "IT'S NOT ABOUT WHERE YOU COME FROM BUT WHERE YOU'RE GOING". Yaani muhimu siyo wapi unatoka bali wapi unaenda.
Ukichunguza maisha ya watu wengi utagundua kuwa kuna uhusiano mkubwa kati ya level ya maisha yao na watu wanaoji-associate nao. Hata wewe unaweza kuona hilo. Wataalamu wanaita hii kitu LAW OF ASSOCIATION. Ambayo wanasema kuwa "Wewe ni WASTANI wa watu watano ulio na ukaribu nao zaidi"
Yaani ufahamu wako, pesa zako, mali zako, na hata ndoto zako, huwa zinakuwa ni WASTANI wa vile vya watu wako watano unaoji-associate nao kwa ukaribu. Kwa hiyo ukitaka kubadili level ya maisha yako basi badili tu gia. Gia yenyewe ni nini? Gia ni aina ya marafiki zako watano wa karibu.
Kimsingi kuna MAKUNDI matatu makuu ambayo unatakiwa kuyajua linapokuja suala la watu ulio na ukaribu nao. Or rather, watu walio na ukaribu na wewe.
I. WATU UNAOWAZIDI UWEZO
Hili ni kundi la kwanza. Na hili ni kundi litakalokufanya ushindwe kufikia mafanikio yako. Sasa inawezekana umelelewa katika mazingira ambayo hukuwa ukitambulika kwenu. Na Mungu si Athumani sasa umepiga hatua fulani kiufahamu. Ama kifedha. Ama kiroho. Na hivyo kuna watu wanatamani kuwa tu karibu na wewe. Sasa usiingie mtego wa kuwafanya kuwa your ASSOCIATES. Utarudi nyuma sana. Maana hawa hawana cha maana cha kuadd maishani mwako. Bali they are the takers. They'll take everything you have and give you nothing in return. Hawa ni watu ambao sometimes wanaona wako entitled kupokea kutoka kwako na siyo kutoa. Usipowasaidia au kuwashauri au kuwainua watakuona mbaya. Be wary of them. My auntie aliwahi niambia usiwasaidie watu mpaka wakaona hakuna haja ya kuomba wala kumtegemea Mungu. Utakuwa wewe umekuwa Mungu wao and God will punish you.
So kundi hili hawana cha kukupa cha maana. They're at the bottom. Ukiwaweka hawa karibu utaishia kulose hata zile gifts ambazo Mungu alikupa. Hawa ni walalamishi. Negative thinking. They have the victim's mentality. Hawatakufikisha popote.
Pause now and think. Je katika watu ulio na ukaribu nao sana kuna watu wa aina hiyo? Cut off the relationship mapema. Anza tu kupunguza u karibu. It's for your own good. And eventually theirs too. Kama una watu ambao kwa mfano una ukaribu nao mwaka mzima huu January till now December but hujapata any value in any way from them ondoka. Wanasema if you are the smartest in the group then leave that group.
Jiangalie je are you the smartest and more knowledgeable and more successful katika kundi ulilopo la marafiki zako au watu wako wa karibu?
Or you'll never grow.
II. WATU MNAOLINGANA AU KUFANANA UWEZO/MAISHA/MTAZAMO
Birds of a feather......! Walijisemea waingereza. And rightly so!
Hapa kuna shida zaidi. Hawa ni watu ambao mpo level sawa kimaisha. Kiufahamu. Etc. Hapa tunaita YOUR COMFORT ZONE. Hapa ni pagumu kutoka kuliko kundi la kwanza. Maana kundi la kwanza ni watu unaweza kusema tu "banae hawa wananitumia tu ngoja niondoke". Lakini kundi hili la watu unaolingana nao,, wote mna "ELIMU YA JUU", okay, wote mna "maisha flani hivi". Sijui unanielewa. Kama ni wanafunzi wote mnategemea mkopo in one way or another. Kama ni wajasiriamali wote mko mnafananafanana hata kama mnafanya vitu tofauti. Kwa kifupi you "speak the same language". Yani unafeel at home ukiwa around nao. Uko nyumbani. Hujisikii kama "intruder". Yani wewe jiangalie hapo ulipo ni watu gani ambao ni "washkaji zako" au "mashosti" wa toka long time. You kind of palled up with them long ago and you kind of don't see yourself moving ahead without them. Hao yani. Watu ambao wakikwambia "Aisee weekend wapi?" Majibu unayo? Watu ambao mnaiva siyo kwa sababu mnasaidiana kugrow ila kwa sababu mko level moja ya maisha. Hao watu ndiyo kitanzi cha wewe kutofikia KILELE CHA MAFANIKIO YAKO. I'm telling you. Huwezi tu kuamua kuwa busy na kucompromise muda wa wewe na wao. Mmekunywa wote bia toka enzi Merryland inavuma hapo ITV kisha mkahamia Break Point baadaye mkaenda Rose Garden nk. Mmetoka "mbali". Hao watu ambao uko nao comfortable ni kikwazo cha wewe kukua. Sababu kiwango cha muda wako wanachotumia bila kuadd value yoyote ya maana ni kikubwa sana. Hawa watu kitu muhimu duniani kama APPOINTMENT mkipanga kisha ukachelewa hawawezi kukukaripia au "kukusema" ili uone umefanya mistake kubwa. No. Watakuuliza tu maswali ya kijinga "Umepita kwa mchepuko nini??" Coz hata appointment ikiwa ni ya jambo nyeti kabisa but aina ya watu hao ni watu wasio na character ya kukupush kuchukulia mambo serious. Kama unahisi hapo ulipo umepiga hatua basi jaribu kujitenga kidogo na comfort zone yako utashangaa utakavyokwenda mbali zaidi. Watu wengi huishia hapa katika maisha. Wako juu lakini wako kwenye kitu tunaita PLATEAU OF SUCCESS. Kweli kabisa anaonekana amefanikiwa lakini yuko kwenye plateaut. Kuna tofauti ya kupanda ili milima na nyanda za juu kusini na kupanda hadi Kibo ya Kilimanjaro. Ni Kibo tu ambayo dunia nzima itaona umepanda juu kweli kweli. Being the highest point kwa hapa Africa! See? Plateau Success itakufaa kwa sasa lakini siku ukija kugundua badala ya kwenda Nyanda za Juu Kusini ulitakiwa ujikakamue uende kwa Wachaga ukafike Kibo pia utagundua umepoteza muda mwingi sana wa thamani. I'm not trying to tell you kuishi bila marafiki. No I'm trying to tell you marafiki zako *WA KARIBU* wasiwe unaowazidi au mnaolingana tu. Jaribu kupunguza marafiki wa aina mbili katika circle yako ya watu wa karibu uanze kuongeza aina ya tatu ya marafiki.
III. WATU WANAOKUZIDI KWA VITU VINGI AU VYOTE
Kuingiza watu wa aina hii katika circle ya watu wako wa karibu inahitaji UJIKANE NAFSI kwanza. Na hili ndo humu. Kuwa na watu unaowazidi ndo wakawa your CONFIDANTS haihitaji kujikana inahitaji "ujinga" flani hivi kichwani. Maana kama mipango yako ya ndani na siri zako nk unawashirikisha zaidi watu unaowazidi ambao hawana uwezo wa kucontribute chochote kufikia malengo yako kivile inahitaji uwe umejivika ujinga flani kwanza. Kuwafanya your comfort zone kuwa your CONFIDANTS pia haihitaji kujikana ni kama wajibu maana kila mtu tuko comfortable na mwenzake na hawa ndo huwa wanachomeana kwa wakubwa nk. But kuwa na u karibu na watu MNAOLINGANA haihitaji kujikana. Ila ukitaka katika watu wako wa karibu awemo Dewji unaonaje? Inabidi uifanyie kazi hiyo nafasi siyo? Why? Sababu watu waliofanikiwa huwa wako busy zaidi na mambo yaliyowafanya wafanikiwe. Kiukweli hawana sana muda na vitu kama matokeo ya mpira labda kama anataka kununua timu au ana timu tayari. Hawana muda sana kujua Lema anatoka lini ameonewa au la. Hicho katika list ya vitu vilivyompa utajiri. Mtoto wa Diamond atapewa jina gani. Hilo halipiti kichwani mwake. Nadhani unaona tofauti sasa?
Ili huyu mtu awe kiongozi mwa watu wako wa karibu basi atakutest kwa vitu vidogo vidogo na kisha vikubwa nk. Anataka kujua unaweza kuaminiwa na information nyeti au uko fragile. Atakupa kitu umwekee umtunzie kisha atakwambia anakihitaji siku 10 baadaye then three days later atakwambia samahani Nina emergency kile kitu naomba umpelekee mtu fulani mahali fulani. Anatest je jibu lako litakuwa na "lakini"? Je utadeliver results au utampa excuses?
Imagine alipewa pesa Fulani ndogo tu labda laki akakuomba umwekee hadi siku 10 ndo ataihitaji na akakwambia sababu kwa nini hataki kukaa na hiyo pesa hapo anajua una shida ya pesa vibaya mno. Maskini unaenda kuitumia ukijua siku kumi kwanza mshahara utakuwa ushatoka afu anakupigia kesho yake tu kuwa inahitaji ka. Tena anakutumia SMS tu. Inahitajika mahali kuna mtu wa karibu nami ana shida muhimu. Akihisi tu response yako inaonyesha uliitumia basi mmeishana.
Mtu aliyefanikiwa atakupima kujua motive yako ya kutaka u karibu na yeye ni ipi? What's your "why"? And the WHY behind that "why"? Atajua tu. Nadhani unaona kwa nini matajiri na waliofanikiwa wanakuwa na marafiki wachache mno. Akiona una deserve attention yake atakuwa na ukaribu na wewe hata kama ni kwa mipaka lakini anajua wewe una DNA ya mafanikio na ya greatness. Ukuu. So utaongeza kitu kwake pia in the long run. Otherwise baki huko huko chini usijenivuta kurudi chini kuliko kwa thinking yako. Negative mind yako. Poverty mindset yako. Watu waliofanikiwa wanajali muda. So ukitaka kuwa na ukaribu naye jijengee tabia ya kukeep time na appointments bila VIJISABABU.
Kundi hili ukifanikiwa kuwa na mmoja tu akawa mtu wako wa karibu. Yani kuna vitu akipata a nakupigia simu tu from nowhere kukwambia "Aisee ulinambia unataka kufanya hivi na vile nimefikiria nikasema kwa nini usifanye hivi na hivi kwanza?" Hivi kama mtu aliyefanikiwa anaweza kuacha mambo yake akakupigia simu yeye mwenyewe kukupa mawazo yake unadhani ni bure? Si keshaona wewe ni "mwenzake" japo upo chini bado.
Hili kundi limewashinda wengi kuwa nalo karibu. But ndo kundi lenye majibu ya maswali yako mengi kama unataka kuifikia KIBO ya mafanikio yako pia!
Lakini kama umeridhika na level ya nyanda za juu kusini sawa endelea na mashosti na washkati. Eti my colleagues. Wasomi wana maneno! Haya bana.
Rafiki yangu Josiah Otege alionge akiiongelea juzi anaita LAW OF ASSOCIATION. Alifafanua vema sana umuhimu wa kuassociate na the right people.a kuna Dada mmoja anaitwa June Uronu juzi juzitatehe 1 December mida ya saa moja na nusu usiku aliandika maneno yafuatayo kwenye ukuta wake wa Facebook: "NGUVU ZA MATAJIRI WOTE HAZIPO BENKI KWENYE ACCOUNT ZAO, ZIPO KWA WATU WALIOMO KWENYE MAISHA YAO YA KILA SIKU"
Akamalizia kusema: "UKIKUBALI KUZUNGUKWA NA WATU WAVIVU, WAZEMBE, WAMBEA NA WALEVI WA STAREHE WEWE UTAKUWA MASKINI HADI UZIKWE"
Ndo maana nakumbuka mpaka siku na muda! Nilitamani kila mtu aisome ndo maana nimeireproduce hapa. Mdogo wangu mwingine anaitwa Elizabeth C Luzutta naye akasema "BE CAREFUL THE FRIENDS YOU CHOOSE, YOU WILL END UP LIKE THEM"
Hawa watu watatu wote niliowataja wameandika ujumbe unaoshabihiana kwq nyakati tofauti katika mazingira tofauti. Na Mimi nimeshare hayo makundi ili upate nyongeza ya vile wengine wlivyotangulia kusema. Hope itakusaidia kuangalia watu ulioruhusu kwenye circle yako ya urafiki. Nimejifunza kuwa lazima u-cut off baadhi ya mahusiano ili uende mbali. Imeleta shida kwangu lakini kwa sababu najua ninakokwenda kuna watu wala hawaelekei huko so why nikae nao tunajadili kuhusu kwenda wapi sasa wakati wenzangu wamefika? Nimefanya makosa mengi lakini KOSA kubwa nililolifanya muda mrefu ni AINA YA WATU niliokubali kuwa na u karibu nao.. Maana walinishepu nikawa kama wao. But not anymore! I have set a new standard for ME. Na mimi natafuta marafiki wapya watakaoni challenge kukua na kufikia KIBO ya mafanikio aliyoniwekea Mungu mbele yangu. It's sad to lose some "friends" but kwenye kutimiza kusudi la kuumbwa kwako usiangalie sana feelings au inconvenience. Kofi Anan aliwahi kusema:/WHAT MATTERS IS NOT THE INCONVENIENCE, WHAT MATTERS IS DOING THE RIGHT THING".
Huwezi kwenda Mtwara halafu unaambatana na watu wanaenda Ukerewe! #InahitajiUjingaFlani hiyo au siyo.
Mwaka huu unapoisha angalia watu wako wa karibu ni wapi. Je unataka kuendeleza u rafiki wa karibu na watu gani?
Kwa sababu hawawezi kukuchallenge?
Kwa sababu unajisikia nyumbani?
Kwa sababu watakuchallenge na kukufanya ujichunguze wewe binafsi na mienendo yako?
So who are your friends?
Mwaka huu 2016 BILL GATES na WARREN BUFFET walisherehekea miaka 25 ya URAFIKI wakati wewe unasherehekea miaka mitano ya urafiki wa Facebook na huyo rafiki yako. Kuna siku mtakuwa mmekuwa marafiki kwa miaka 25 pia! Swali ni je, Urafiki wenu utakuwa umekufanya ufikie ndoto zako au upoteze ndoto zako na maono yako na destiny yako? Siyo mpenzi sana wa mpira siku hizi kama miaka 8 iliyopita lakini nikimwangalia Cristiano Ronaldo ana aina fulani tu ya marafiki kwenye team yake. Wengine ni wafanyakazi wenzake tu. Lakini friends wa karibu very few. Na wote wanaperform vizuri..siyo wa Team B. Why? Coz birds of a feather...!
Role models wake ni high performers na confidants wake pia.
What about you?
20 years toka sasa utakuwa mtu mzima tu wa kutosha. Urafiki utachangia sana utakuwa mtu wa aina gani. Kataa friend request nyingine Facebook. Siyo sifa kufika limit ya watu 5000 Facebook afu kati yao una watu wasiozidi 10 tu ambao ndo wanakusaidia angalau kujitambua na kuwa bora zaidi ya jana. Why on earth have the 5000? Kama Yesu angeanza na watu 5000 na kisha akafika mwisho na kugundua kumbe alitakiwa aanze na 12 tu angekuwa ameDISCO. Lakini alijua.
Alikuwa na 12 tu na kati ya hao akawa na 3 tu wa karibu (Petro, Yakobo na Yohana) and kati ya hao akawa na 1 (Yohana) tu wa karibu zaidi.
Watu waliofanikiwa ndivyo walivyo..wanajua vizuri kuwa lazima kuwa na circle ndogo ya watu wa karibu. Ndo maana ukitaka wakuweke kwenye hiyo circle you've got to prove yourself worth!
Huwezi kuwa "mjanja" kuliko Yesu. Unataka uwe na urafiki na kila mtu. Aliyewaumba mwenyewe wengine hawataki urafiki naye. Wewe ndo utawaweza? My friend be careful. And good luck as you brace for 2017!
With lots of love,
Andrea G Muhozya
Dar es Salaam, Tanzania,
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